The Big Fuss Around Marriage



23- You just finished with your studies, and landed yourself a good job. First up, everyone around you will offer you their congratulations. Job out of the way? Next thing you hear- it's time to start thinking about marriage. Give yourself two years of working only for yourself, enjoy the single life, then we should work towards your wedding.


Two years manage to somehow go by.

25- Wish you had found a guy for yourself by now. Maybe it's time for us to start looking for one for you. 

But you had some other plans for your life. Change of job, or like in my case, I took up the challenge of setting up my own business. With a very supportive family. Naturally when you have a family who appreciates fully well that you cannot possibly get married if you are  not financially independent (and of course add to that the fact that you also need a family who are as willing to appreciate your career choices and are ready to support your ambitions), then the pressure of getting married is off you for at least another couple of years.

27- 2 years into your business or new job or any such similar case, time for the wedding talks to do the rounds again. Especially as you see people around you (friends, cousins) starting to get married. But by now, you also start to feel pretty comfortable in your single life, and the idea of such a big change in life, to be honest, also starts to freak you out a little. Your life can go about two ways now- either you are willing to get married, or you now start resisting it. By now, you are probably also not very keen for your parents to find you a match, because let's face it, when you fantasize your Mr Right, you also have a whole lot of expectations in life as to who he should be. And let's face it, any one short of John Abraham in looks, and Mark Zuckerburg in money just doesn't seem to fit the bill anymore does he? ;)

But anyways, by now, no matter how much you resist, you have also finally reached the stage where you give in to the demands to some extent and either try to find Mr Right yourself, or let your parents do it, or are willing to arrive at a compromise somewhere in between.

29- You really begin to wonder what the fuss is all about, but are extremely grateful that people are starting to give you up as a hopeless case, so at least the entire process is conducted in some degree of peace (oh your own folks will never give up on you, they will still keep pushing you, but at least others will stop commenting).

Conceded that companionship is important. But why does marriage have to be the only route to that companionship? We are looking at two people who have to start completely from scratch in their mid 20s-30s. Seems like so much effort somehow. I suppose you could say when you cross the bridge then you would feel differently, and normally the grass is also supposed to be greener on the other side, but at least as on date, I probably fail to see it.

But at the end of it, I guess life really just decides to take its own course, and we are only left swimming with the current.... so all's well :)

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